tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post1575510255875700642..comments2024-03-18T08:33:25.907-04:00Comments on Inkwell Inspirations: The Special Needs of a Pastoral SpouseLisa Karon Richardsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02175430876079208723noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-19445706282457664982009-10-10T20:31:08.803-04:002009-10-10T20:31:08.803-04:00Our winner for this post is Jeanette! Congrats, an...Our winner for this post is Jeanette! Congrats, and thanks to all who stopped by.Jennifer AlLeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18178922554247015759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-58166176044087603992009-10-01T08:58:38.582-04:002009-10-01T08:58:38.582-04:00Jen: Thank you for this wisdom.
When I married my...Jen: Thank you for this wisdom. <br />When I married my pastor husband thirty-five years ago, I had no idea...<br /><br />If I had, I would've started a universal 24/7 prayer team for all pator's families. <br /><br />The most painful thing to bear is hearing people criticize my husband, misjudging his motives. If only they could listen in on our concern-filled conversations and prayers Jeanette Levelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12898750484193832082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-8592375528879383402009-09-30T16:25:04.782-04:002009-09-30T16:25:04.782-04:00Great post! Some wonderful advice was provided. ...Great post! Some wonderful advice was provided. I think we all need to be reminded of this no matter what position we hold in church.<br /><br />cherierj(at)yahoo(dot)comCherie Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16767627787231269781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-66378650118149289322009-09-30T16:23:57.995-04:002009-09-30T16:23:57.995-04:00I found the comments about assuming things were bo...I found the comments about assuming things were bought with your tithe money really interesting. I don't think I've been involved in a congregation that was that petty, although of course I've heard of such things.<br /><br />Depending on the type of church this must be very confusing. Some churches want their pastors poor while others want them to maintain a certain image and decorumDina Sleimanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05214446103057806111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-35911893897038318032009-09-30T15:33:57.314-04:002009-09-30T15:33:57.314-04:00Wonderful post. Mind a few more?
Don't assum...Wonderful post. Mind a few more?<br /><br />Don't assume anything new--from a hair bow to a house--was purchased with <em>your</em> money, especially if the pastor and/or his wife have a career beyond the church.<br /><br />Don't assume the pastor's wife can, or would be willing to, introduce you to your future spouse. (I can't tell you how many times I'd been asked to do PatriciaWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04572087157439187319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-47661176334399868802009-09-30T14:50:22.011-04:002009-09-30T14:50:22.011-04:00When I was an undergrad at Asbury College, I steer...When I was an undergrad at Asbury College, I steered clear of guys who wanted to be pastors. Even if God wanted me to be a pastor's wife, I was going to make sure it didn't happen. Girls who came to college in search of a future pastor to marry absolutely baffled me. <br /><br />I do think it's a calling, as much as any ministry.<br /><br />Y'all know my e-mail address.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-53231543852583604772009-09-30T14:49:07.654-04:002009-09-30T14:49:07.654-04:00Great post, Jen, and some thought-provoking (and h...Great post, Jen, and some thought-provoking (and hilarious) comments. Praise God for those who lift pastors and their families before the Lord in prayer and befriend them! Great, practical advice here.<br /><br />Suzie, I am so sorry about your loss. How sad it is for us, even when we know our loved ones are in the arms of the Lord.Susanne Dietzehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09710634601407161821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-77784730565940330932009-09-30T14:48:36.014-04:002009-09-30T14:48:36.014-04:00Wilda, great advice. That's one of the big iss...Wilda, great advice. That's one of the big issues in The Pastor's Wife - unspoken expectations on both sides and the havoc that creates.<br /><br />Rose, great to see you. I didn't know you were and elder's wife... I'll bet you were a great one :+}Jennifer AlLeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18178922554247015759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-56570521652097775372009-09-30T14:25:08.623-04:002009-09-30T14:25:08.623-04:00After being an elder's wife for many years, I ...After being an elder's wife for many years, I can only imagine how much even harder it must be for a minister's wife. I think we should do everything possible to support them and show them our love. Thanks for this reminder.rose mccauleyhttp://www.rosemccauley.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-33657059145880102132009-09-30T12:44:20.389-04:002009-09-30T12:44:20.389-04:00Another great post Jen- and the ever insightful In...Another great post Jen- and the ever insightful Inky Commenters. <br /><br />And I'm thrilled to see new faces and names. <br /><br />Remember to leave your email addresses (safely, as described at the bottom of each post) so you can be in the drawing for today's prize as well as our grand prize.<br /><br />I recall a friend (a pastor's wife ) saying that when she went to bible Debra E. Marvinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17853387871623424853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-34290366738023464002009-09-30T11:22:22.823-04:002009-09-30T11:22:22.823-04:00Hi Everybody!
Your comments and added suggestions...Hi Everybody!<br /><br />Your comments and added suggestions have been great. Lots of good stuff to think about and ponder.<br /><br />Sherrinda, you're so right! Being a pastor is one of the few occupations where the spouse is expected to come with the package. (The only other one I can think of is politician).<br /><br />Niki, you got me laughing with your stories. BTW, your post earlier Jennifer AlLeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18178922554247015759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-19940450840608368722009-09-30T11:21:22.616-04:002009-09-30T11:21:22.616-04:00When I was teaching at Northern Baptist Theologica...When I was teaching at Northern Baptist Theological Seminary, I advised students that when they interviewed for pastoral positions they should specifically raise the question of expectations of their spouse. The pastor's wife (or husband) is not paid for overseeing women's ministries, praying at every meeting the women have, playing the piano for Sunday School, etc. And she (or he) may Wilda Morrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11117716477114417960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-11044853375618446322009-09-30T10:14:04.471-04:002009-09-30T10:14:04.471-04:00A young wife like me can learn a lot from this blo...A young wife like me can learn a lot from this blog! Thanks for the hard work and thanks for the reading recommendation P.L. : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-16667453529913228722009-09-30T10:10:19.123-04:002009-09-30T10:10:19.123-04:00Excellent post, Jen. We once belonged to a church ...Excellent post, Jen. We once belonged to a church in a bigger town that had outgrown the building. Instead of building a new place, the church decided to buy an older church building in the smaller community down the road. We lived between the 2 communities and had our choice to stay with the old or help build the congregation of the new. We choice the latter. <br /><br />Now here's where itAnita Mae Draperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16618699900826731377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-79195767259919645492009-09-30T09:39:28.284-04:002009-09-30T09:39:28.284-04:00Your post made me smile, Jen, and reminded me of t...Your post made me smile, Jen, and reminded me of two funny stories:<br />1. The day my car died in the middle of the street and I had just enough momentum to roll into the parking lot of the local liquor store. Had messages on my machine wanting to know what the pastor's wife was doing at the liquor store by the time I got home. (Note, they SAW my car and recognized it, but it never occurred Niki Turnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10419436634375255412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-73104948027767817442009-09-30T09:36:02.167-04:002009-09-30T09:36:02.167-04:00Jen, this was beautiful.
I love your expression: ...Jen, this was beautiful.<br /><br />I love your expression: the head tender of the church grapevine. LOL!<br /><br />I'm feeling quite sad after reading your post, and I know it wasn't your intent. But my pastor's wife, a dear sweet woman with two beautiful young girls, passed away in June of cancer. My heart still breaks whenever I think of her. I know she's resting in our dear Suzie Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06296203324088418271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-83867076588061116622009-09-30T09:20:20.955-04:002009-09-30T09:20:20.955-04:00Jen, you made me think! How could you?
In all se...Jen, you made me think! How could you? <br /><br />In all seriousness, I have been mulling over this post and I wanted to add one thing. Assume good intentions. This cuts both ways. People in the church can get up in arms because the pastor's wife did or said something they didn't like. On the other hand, a pastor's wife can become either an embittered martyr, or a timid church mouse Lisa Karon Richardsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02175430876079208723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-88236663308024638642009-09-30T08:55:03.691-04:002009-09-30T08:55:03.691-04:00Another wonderful post on how to serve those who s...Another wonderful post on how to serve those who serve us--and our Lord.<br /><br />Thanks, Jen! Lookin' forward to that ARC!!!!!!!!!!!<br /><br />PattiPatti Lacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00687666130404407814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-52519931243053344182009-09-30T08:47:47.716-04:002009-09-30T08:47:47.716-04:00Great thoughts and suggestions! Thanks for sharing...Great thoughts and suggestions! Thanks for sharing. Congrats on your book!Wandering Writerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01445595080265227834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-69240119304985786852009-09-30T08:12:32.097-04:002009-09-30T08:12:32.097-04:00Thanks Jen. I wanted to add a thought to the "...Thanks Jen. I wanted to add a thought to the "squash the gossip" tip.<br /><br />(Love)keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. <br /><br />One lesson I've learned very well at my current church is that love always requires us to assume the best about people. I'm Dina Sleimanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05214446103057806111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-49494471943606183012009-09-30T08:12:02.182-04:002009-09-30T08:12:02.182-04:00Yep, marvelous advice, Jen. You hit is spot on. Ma...Yep, marvelous advice, Jen. You hit is spot on. May I add one more? If you attend a church that believes in tithing, don't ask your pastor's wife if she used 'your' tithes to buy that fancy new dress she's sporting. <br /><br />It's not in good taste.Lisa Karon Richardsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02175430876079208723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7502152359497137754.post-9890806789832452192009-09-30T06:45:18.656-04:002009-09-30T06:45:18.656-04:00What a beautiful purpose God has laid on your hear...What a beautiful purpose God has laid on your heart to write about and affirm Pastors and their families. I had to smile when I read your list, because they sure hit home! I think the hardest part for me is that it is expected that I be at the church every time the doors are open. Sure, it is my husband's job, but most careers are not a two-for-one deal. :)<br /><br />Great post! I've Sherrinda Ketchersidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07581676437345249386noreply@blogger.com