Teaching Our Daughters
A self-help post by Barbara Early
One of the ways I judge a book is by the way it makes me feel when I turn the last page and set it down. Some books make me glad to be finished so I can read other things. Others I enjoy, but once I close the covers, I might never think of them again; they were a momentary diversion. In others, I hope there's a series, because I don't want to let go of the characters. Some may leave me smiling, crying or hiding under the covers--others made me want to toss the book against the wall. Which I've done (before I switched to ebook) because I'm a tad prima donna that way.
Dance of the Dandelion left me thinking.
Dance of the Dandelion has a message.
Now, I'm not saying it's preachy or didactic. It is, first of all, an engaging and entertaining read. But underneath is a story of love and faith that has the potential to change the reader in a positive way.
As Deb said yesterday, Dandelion is "looking for love in all the wrong places." While this makes for an edgier story than is typically found in CBA Christian fiction, it does so in a way I find edifying. And in a way I think is important to share with our daughters.
What are we teaching our daughters about men? About romance? About themselves?
Are we teaching them at all?
While I knew Dina's novel did a good job at showing the dangers of looking for the wrong kinds of love, I was excited to learn that she gathered some of her inspiration from Dr. Wheat's Love Life for Every Married Couple. It is an old book--our pastor used it in our premarital counseling over twenty-five years ago. But the message is vital.
So when you order your copy of Dance of the Dandelion (and you should), why not order two? And talk with your daughter about the difference between lust and desire and love, and the qualities to look for in a man and a relationship. While Dandelion might have made her share of mistakes and reaped the consequences, our daughters shouldn't have to.
We need to teach our DAUGHTERS the difference between
Questions of the day: What was the best advice you've ever gotten about love and romance? What do you wish you'd heard?A man who FLATTERS her
And a man who COMPLIMENTS her.
A Man who SPENDS MONEY on her
And a man who INVESTS in her.
An man who views her as PROPERTY
And a man who views her PROPERLY.
A man who LUSTS after her
And a man who LOVES her.
A man who believes HE IS GOD'S GIFT to women
And a man who remembers a WOMAN WAS GOD'S GIFT to man.
And then teach OUR SONS to be that kind of man.
Please comment and let us know if you'd like to be in the drawing for Dance of the Dandelion. Drawing will be held at the end of the blog day, Sunday night, October 9th.Barbara Early grew up buried in the snowy suburbs of Buffalo, NY, where she developed a love for all things sedentary: reading, writing, classic movies, and facebook scrabble. She holds a degree in Electrical Engineering, but her penchant for the creative caused her to run away screaming from the pocket-protector set. Barbara cooks up cozy mysteries with a healthy dose of comedy and sometimes a splash of romance. Her holiday novella, Gold, Frankincense, and Murder will be released from White Rose Publishing in time for the holiday season. You can learn more about her writing on her personal blog: http://barbearly.blogspot.com/ or see what's for dinner on her recipe blog: http://bflogal.blogspot.com/.