by Dina Sleiman
I have an odd question today. Can you be better than the Bible? I
suppose most Christians would summarily respond "no, of course not." Yet
often people's lives and theology seem to suggest that they secretly
think yes. What is it with Christians trying to sanitize everything and
pretty it up and make it nice? The Bible isn't always nice. Recently
during our morning devotionals I read the scripture in Galatians where
Paul suggests that the circumcision advocates go all the way and chop
off a certain key body part. LOL. I looked at my thirteen-year-old son
and said, "I guess Paul was throwing a bit of a temper tantrum." And as a
popular facebook meme suggests, when asked, "What would Jesus
do?"--throwing over tables is an option.
Here's
the thing. The Bible is not always neat and pretty and tied up with a
bow. Sometimes daughter-in-laws seduce father-in-laws. Prostitutes make
it into the lineage of Jesus. Men who are said to be after God's own
heart also commit adultery and murder. Prophets smear poop on things.
Then there's the Song of Solomon, a rather erotic book that I sometimes
wonder if Christian parents even allow their kids to read.
I
recently saw a facebook post by a fellow author asking someone to
explain to her why Ruth lay down at Boaz's feet. She said this seemed
rather risky and risque, and of course twenty or so comments tried to
explain why it wasn't. Eventually I couldn't take it any longer and
replied, "I think it was risky and risque, and I think God has a message
for us in that."
If the Bible is indeed (as we claim
we believe) God's inspired Word to mankind, then we need to accept all
of it, even when it's messy. And if it is indeed God's inspired Word, we
can't be "better" than the behavior recommended in it. Of course I'm
not talking about bad behavior of specific individuals, but rather the
Bible's prescribed behavior, particularly in the New Testament.
When we try to be better, nicer, more pure, and more sanitized than the Bible itself, what we actually are is out of balance.
For example, while certain aspects of
life like drinking alcohol or dancing can in some cases lead to sinful
behavior, the Bible never says that either of these are sinful. Still,
some denominations of Christianity try to turn them into sins. If
someone chooses not to drink alcohol, that can be a wise decision, but
if they judge others and treat it like a sin, they're out of balance.
When they contrive elaborate theologies of why the wine Jesus turned the
water into wasn't
really wine, they're out of balance. And
when you're out of balance, another word for that is: WRONG!
Paul
says it is for freedom we've been made free. Satan wants us bound, God
wants us to feel free to enjoy life so long as we follow the Spirit and
stay within certain general guidelines. Getting drunk is a sin. Drinking
wine is allowed if you can do it with self-control. Dancing with an
intentional goal of seducing anyone but your own spouse would reasonably
seem to fall outside of those prescribed guidelines (although I don't
think it's anyone's job to judge the motives of another persons heart),
but dancing as worship is encouraged, and dancing to enjoy life and
music and community is fine.
Or let's take kissing
before marriage. The Bible never says it's wrong, yet some Christians
today treat it like a sin, or a lack of purity. The Bible
DOES
say not to have sex outside of marriage, and yes, excessive and
indiscriminate kissing could lead one down a wrong path. But that
doesn't make kissing before marriage a sin. You can't just go around
making up sins for expediency. The same goes for dating. Adult
Christians should feel free to make those sorts of choices for
themselves and not be judged by other Christians.
Again,
remember that when we try to be better than the Bible, something is
dangerously off course. I have an acquaintance who recently wrote a book
called
Courtship in Crisis
about the problem's within the new Christian courtship movement. Here's
my thoughts on the issue. When young men and women are taught to feel
impure every time their bodies experience natural, God-ordained
sensations, they are being set up for problems later on in their
marriages. How are they supposed to magically retrain their minds in one
brief ceremony to enjoy what has been causing them perpetual guilt and
turmoil for years? Guilt and turmoil that the Bible doesn't require.
Feelings
aren't sin. Physical sensations aren't sin. What we do with those
feelings and sensations determine our sinfulness or righteousness. If we
choose to revel in them and fantasize over them, or worse yet to dive
into them, that is very different than experiencing them and then making
good decisions concerning them. It's very different than saying, "Dear
Father God, I'm having these feelings and don't know what to do with
them. Please guide me through this situation."
And even when we make poor decisions, God is there to forgive and restore us.
Of
course I realize that some of my readers are teens, and so I remind you
that children are instructed by the Bible to obey their parents. That
message is clear. And adult children must still show their parents honor
and respect, but they must also make their own decisions before God and
take responsibility for their own choices.
On the flip
side, to parents and church leaders I would say this. I grew up in the
church, and trust me, kids who grow up in the church have excellent
"b.s." detectors. They know when the adults in their lives are giving
them rules that go beyond the Bible. And all that serves to do is
undermine their credibility. When people try to make rock music, black
fingernails, blue hair, and the like into "sin," they risk pushing
others away from the true gospel message of freedom, grace, and
redemption.
Okay, I may have fallen into rambling a bit, but this has been niggling at me for a while. So here's what it all comes back to.
Can you be better than the Bible? No. Not
if you believe it's truly God's Holy Word, as we Christians claim to
believe it is. So let's get real, authentic, maybe a little vulnerable.
Let's stop living nice, safe, clean, pretty lives and not be afraid of
the riskier existence of walking by the Spirit of God. Let's present a
version of Christianity to the world that is not based on rules and
limits, but on the immeasurable gift of God.
We can't be better than the Bible, we can only be out of balance. And out of balance is just plain wrong.