Friday, August 10, 2012

From One Friend to Another

by Jennifer AlLee

(This post originally appeared last year... but, in my opinion, it can't be said enough. So here we go again!)

Human contact. It’s one of those essentials of life that we often overlook. Oh sure, we have contact with our immediate families, but that’s not always enough for every situation. 

Take the writer, for example.
Writer’s think differently than normal people. We see what ifs everywhere. We hear the voices of our characters talking to us… and we talk back. We also deal with more assaults to our self-esteem and emotions than you’d think. Often, they come from outside sources, but just as often, they come from ourselves. Talking to a spouse might help, depending on the severity of the situation. Nine times out of ten, the non-writing spouse won’t understand why it’s a big deal.

So what’s a writer to do when she feels particularly vulnerable, her armor more dented than the surface of the moon? Reach out to the only people who truly understand her: writing friends.

You can take the word “writer” and substitute any other you choose: Secretary, CEO, pastor, teacher, stay-at-home mom, dental hygienist, and on and on and on. Sometimes, the only way to get out of the doldrums is to have your friends pull you out. And the best friends for the job are the ones who know what you’re going through.

Of course, God knows this.
And let us consider one another in order 
to stir up love and good works, 
not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, 
as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, 
and so much the more as you see the Day approaching. 
(Hebrews 10:24-25, NLT) 

He’s talking to members of the early Christian church. There was a bunch who really needed to band together. They were persecuted. They faced attacks on a daily basis. Who else but another Christian would understand? Notice, He doesn't tell them to get together and pretend that nothing bad has happened. He doesn't tell them to ignore each other’s pain. He tells them to exhort each other, lift each other up.
In our modern world of emails, Facebook, and such, there’s no excuse for being alone. A timely email message from a friend across the country means just as much as going out for coffee and a chat with your friend from across town. Take some time to reach out today, whether you need to be uplifted, or you think of someone else who could use an emotional boost.

 We’re all in this together.

JENNIFER ALLEE believes the most important thing a woman can do is find her identity in God – a theme that carries throughout her novels. A professional writer for over twenty years, she's done extensive freelance work for Concordia Publishing House, including skits, Bible activity pages, and over 100 contributions to their popular My Devotions series. Her novels include The Love of His Brother (Five Star, 11/07), The Pastor’s Wife (Abingdon Press, 2/10), The Mother Road (Abingdon Press, 4/12) and the upcoming A Wild Goose Chase Christmas (Abingdon Press, 11/12). She's a member of American Christian Fiction Writers, Romance Writers of America, Christian Authors Network, and the Christian Fiction Blog Alliance.
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  1. Just as good the second time around. I know I never would have survived and gotten published without my writer friends. They are a treasure to me.

  2. Thanks Jen. As I was reading your post, a name was placed on my heart - someone I should have emailed days ago but haven't. What on earth am I waiting for? I'll go and do it now. :)

  3. Jen and Anita, the same thing happened to me. I need to e-mail a friend. Thanks for the reminder!

  4. I need to send some e-mails too. First I'm taking the kids to the pool. :-)

    Great post, Jen! We need reminders like that.

  5. Hey ladies, I'm glad you were prompted to reach out to your friends. That's really the whole idea of the post. Just that moment it takes to let someone know you're thinking about them... it can make all the difference! Love you guys :+)

  6. I love this Jen. I'm so glad you posted it again. It's worth revisiting every year!

  7. SOOO true, Jen! I had the blessing of being one reached out to by a friend today, one who understands where we've been. Never underestimate the power of a kind word or a genuine hug or a show of support!!!

  8. I'm glad you re-posted. I needed to read it again, Jen!


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