Monday, February 17, 2014

Be Kind to Celebrities, You Might Be One Someday

by Niki Turner

"If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." ~ Thumper Rabbit

thumper photo:  thumper.jpg I said this again and again to my children when they were small. Mostly to get them to stop calling each other names. I said it as a pastor's wife when people wanted to gripe and grumble about their fellow congregants. I've said it to myself a lot.

So this may seem odd, but the Lord "got on my case" last week about the way we talk about celebrities and how we often exclude them from that old adage. Famous people, whether they're famous for singing and dancing, or sports, or politics, or religious leadership, are "fair game" for whatever anyone wants to say about them, true or not.

Some might say that's because celebrities are different from the rest of us. After all, we reason, they're public figures, they have influence over lots of people, and they are usually ridiculously rich, and they chose to be famous.

Is that the way we determine who is worthy of kindness and courtesy and who isn't? By who is or isn't "different" from us? Maybe it is, but I don't remember Jesus putting "unless they're different" in his instructions to "love one another," or in his words in Matthew 7.
"Do not judge and criticize and condemn others, so that you may not be judged and criticized and condemned yourselves.For just as you judge and criticize and condemn others, you will be judged and criticized and condemned, and in accordance with the measure you [use to] deal out to others, it will be dealt out again to you.Why do you stare from without at the very small particle that is in your brother’s eye but do not become aware of and consider the beam of timber that is in your own eye?" Matthew 7:1-3 Amplified
Does it really matter what disparaging things we say and share about the rich and famous? Think of it this way: Someday we might BE celebrities, and find ourselves on the other end of that verbal whip we've been applying. Oh, we might not be singing on the video music awards program, or schussing down a half-pipe on a snowboard in the winter Olympics, or holding an elected office, or winning "The Biggest Loser," but we may very well end up being a celebrity (the state of being famous or celebrated) in our chosen careers, in our churches and communities, or even just on the Internet (yes, there are people who are Internet celebrities that no one has ever seen on TV or in the movies). In fact, every time we "put ourselves out there" in a public forum, we run the risk of becoming a "celebrity," for a few minutes, anyway.

I don't know which celebrity will find his or her neck on the chopping block of public opinion next, but I will be much more careful what I choose to say, if anything, about them, whether they are merely a "local" celeb or an international star. Hopefully, closing that little gap will also help me keep a grip on my lip when I want to say something unkind about anyone else!

Niki Turner is a writer, former pastor's wife, mother of four, and grandmother of three. She has thus far been unsuccessful at coming up with catchy taglines for her writing, her purpose in life, or what she hopes to achieve in the future. Suggestions are welcome


  1. I hope this does make for a few less 'opinions'. I also know that it is a tradeoff from long before Moses and won't stop with Miley Cyrus. At least some of Thumper's friends and Jesus' followers can do better!

    People watching is an interesting hobby and as long as there are two people doing it, it's going to lead to shared opinions, Maybe the worse is the 'righteous opinion' rather than just the truly snide comment? ha ha.

    I'd like to use this post to pay attention to what I say, starting today.! Thanks Niki!

    1. Great point, Deb. The intention behind what we say makes a big difference in whether it's kind or cruel.

  2. There are times when I get caught him in a conversation where people are feeding off the one-upmanship of others as they assert themselves as knowing it all, but I really, really try to avoid those circumstances.

    These days when we're bombarded with information it's hard to weed out the truth from lies. So yes, it's more important than ever to keep silent about those things we don't know.

    How we perceive others is something I've thought of more often since I sold my story because now I'm wondering how others see me. I tell you, it's enough to make me become a hermit.

    Great post, Niki.

    1. Thanks, Anita Mae!

      You're right about the information glut. More than half the time it's just someone else's perception, not facts, that we're hearing or reading. Drives me nuts when I see that in journalism, especially.

  3. Niki, very good points. I can't imagine what it would be like to live in a fish bowl. To be followed and spied on all the time. And then to get all the negative press. The pressure is really high. No wonder there are so many drug and alcohol problems.


Share This Post

How Our Giveaways Work: The Official Rules

We, the ladies of Inkwell Inspirations, would love to give free stuff to everybody. Since we can't, we will often have a giveaway in conjunction with a specific post. Unless otherwise stated, one winner will be drawn from comments left on that post between the date it was published and the end of the giveaway as determined in the post. Entries must be accompanied by a valid email address. This address is used only to contact the commenter in the event that he/she is the winner, and will not be sold, distributed, or used in any other fashion. The odds of winning depend on the number of entrants. NO PURCHASE, PLEDGE, OR DONATION NECESSARY TO ENTER OR TO WIN. ALL FEDERAL, STATE, LOCAL AND MUNICIPAL LAWS AND REGULATIONS APPLY. VOID WHERE PROHIBITED.