Bitter, or better?
"Beware the ides of March."
Huh? That's the response of the majority, unless they think you're talking about last year's George Clooney/Ryan Gosling movie. Well, sadly, no ... therefore, here's today's mini-history lesson, so you will be well-equipped to answer any question that comes your way about those dang "ides."
The word "ides" is in reference to the 15th day of the month in the Roman calendar for the months of March, May, July, and October. The "ides" (meaning 'half-division') for the other eight months of the year takes place on the 13th.
Historically, in 44 AD, Julius Caesar was stabbed (23 times) in the Roman Senate by conspirators, including, according to tradition, some of his closest friends and compatriots.
Thankfully, in our modern era and culture, we rarely have to deal with actual executions and physical assassinations. What we DO endure, however, are social assassinations. Betrayals of friendships, confidences or relationships for the sake of social, political, or monetary gain are not as obvious as they were in Caesar's day, but they are equally painful.
Dictionary.com defines "betray" like this:
1.to deliver or expose to an enemy by treachery or disloyalty: Benedict Arnold betrayed his country.
2.to be unfaithful in guarding, maintaining, or fulfilling: to betray a trust.
3.to disappoint the hopes or expectations of; be disloyal to: to betray one's friends; to reveal
Murdered? Nah. But how often do we expose one another's weaknesses to the enemy through our whining and grumbling and complaining? Ouch.
How often are you unfaithful by failing to keep your promises, failing to keep a confidence, or failing to maintain a promise made?
Have you ever disappointed the hopes or expectations of friends and family by putting your own needs or desires first?
I have. And I've had all those things "done" to me. The pain of betrayal, and the scars it leaves behind, are worse than almost any other wound known to man. Thankfully, we can look to Jesus, whose personal experience with the pain of betrayal rivals any of our own ... remember Judas's kiss and Peter's denial (in triplicate)? Jesus knows the pain of betrayal and He will help us recover from the wounds we've experienced if we'll turn to Him.
Betrayal can make you bitter, or better, depending on how you respond to it. Don't let betrayal turn you into a bitter believer!
About the Author: Niki writes fiction, blog posts, articles in the local newspaper, grocery lists, and Facebook status updates. She can be found at her own blog, In Truer Ink, in addition to posting here. She was a 2009 finalist in the Faith, Hope, and Love "Touched by Love" contest.