GETTING THERE by Beth Shriver
When your sixteen year old takes their first drive alone, you worry. It’s not something that can be avoided. No matter how much prayer, forethought, teaching and words of wisdom, you are concerned. And until that car enters your driveway again you have thoughts of police cars, ambulances and sirens. It’s just a fact of life when you’re a teen parent.
My son had a friend over and they wanted to rent a movie. They of course wanted my daughter to take them instead of me. The un-cool mom verses the cool teenager. I agreed as long as my son’s friend had permission from his parents, and they were home before curfew. Both were promised but neither followed through.
After the trip to the emergency room it was discovered that my daughter had a broken jaw and would need to see a specialist concerning further treatment. It still seemed so unreal to me, I didn’t believe this had actually happened.
Although she is a good driver, nothing makes up for experience like an accident will, and did in her case. She had misread the light and thought she had the right away and made an illegal left turn. Fortunately the other driver was a kind man and told her his own daughter had done the same thing to her car within weeks of obtaining her license.
That night made us realize how quickly your reality can change in one split second. We count our blessings that the accident didn’t seriously hurt any of the people involved, it could have been so much worse.
I’d like to say that things got better with my daughter but the road to adulthood has been long and hard. I can remember back when I was in middle school and I first read Are You There God? It’s Me Margaret. The book identified with how I felt, self-conscious, uncertain and full of questions. Not only was my body changing but my emotions were as well. My parents didn’t talk about these things, like most in that generation. Certain subjects were taboo, leaving us to ponder the sudden outbursts of tears and the bodily symptoms of becoming a young woman. I do recall talking enough with my mother to find out the basics but it wasn’t near what I discussed with my own daughter. I can still remember her asking when the change would happen to her, I told her not to be in a hurry.
She has settled down but still occasionally makes a bad choice, but then we all do, we just aren’t all held accountable. God has given me a peace about her that I cling to when we hit another bump in her growth process. That sense of peace is what gets me through, thus the title of my devotional, Peace for Parents of Teens (click to watch the video). I originally wrote them for myself, as I was unable to find a devotional that dealt specifically with teens and parents, but was encouraged to continue writing them from other parents, and ended up completing a year of devotions.
What I want parents and teens to glean from my devotional is that they are not a bad parent and their teen isn’t a bad child. If we go there, Satan has us where he wants us, feeling as if we’ve failed and our teenager has as well. God only gives us what we can handle, what our teen can handle; we can get through the trial if we depend on Him to see us through.
Beth Shriver has received high accolades for her imaginative storytelling and insightful books. She presently has four books contracted for release: Annie’s Truth, Peace for Parents of Teens, A Case of the Heart and Love at First Flight. Beth judges for the RWA Golden Heart, NTRWA Great Expectations, Reflections contests and critiques for the Annual Round Table for the NTRWA writers group. She is involved with national and local writers groups: American Christian Fiction Writers, Dallas Fort-Worth Ready Writers, Romance Writers of America, and the North Texas Romance Writers
Beth Shriver received a Bachelors Degree in Social Work from the University of Nebraska. She worked as a case worker for Boulder County Department of Social Services before starting a family. Beth freelanced for local papers in her area and wrote columns and devotionals for magazines. She has two children, and two cats that keep her company when she writes. Beth currently lives in Texas after a career move from Colorado. She writes in a variety of genres in both fiction and non-fiction.
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Thanks for visiting us today, Beth. And a thank you to Gina for inviting you.ReplyDelete
I wonder if there is any period in our lives as stressful as being the parent of a teen? Maybe being a teenager ourselves? A whole different kind, anyway!
I don't miss those days, but I can't say I don't still have sleepless nights over my adult children too. May your book bless many families and your prayers for your daughter be answered beyond your dreams.
Debra, I so agree. Raising teens has without question been rhe most challenging task for me as well. But God worked in me to use that situation into a devotional. I have proof through that experience that God works everything for good:)ReplyDelete
Hey, Beth! Glad to see you at the inkwell. I'm not quite to the teenage years yet. Sometimes I think if it's this hard now, how am I ever going to bear up! Good thing God meets us where we're at.ReplyDelete
Thanks for stopping by! And out of pure curiosity, Beth, who is your favorite author?
Hi Lisa, Francins Rivers, her Mark of the Lion trilogy!!!ReplyDelete
Hi, Beth! Thanks for sharing your (and your daughter's) testimony with the Inkies and our readers. Too many times as parents we want to gloss over the frustrations and even failings we have with out kids.ReplyDelete
Your openness is refreshing and an encouragment.
It's been years since I read a Francine Rivers novel. I think I need to read Redeeming Love again, since so many consider it a classic.
Loved this post, Beth! My teens have raised their own teens who are rasing yet another generation of teens.ReplyDelete
I don't think I could do it again. Not with today's peer pressures.
You have my greatest respect and admiration.
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Okay, I know I'm crazy, but I adore parenting teenagers. I have two at the moment. Now the toddler years--don't even remind me. I might have flashbacks. My oldest is learning to drive. I will admit that my first time taking her out was pretty scary.
Reminded me of a dream I have sometimes where I'm in a car and realize no one's at the wheel and I was supposed to be driving. Often I'm in the back seat, and frantically crawling over trying to get to the front. Yeah, that's what it felt like riding in the passenger seat beside my teenage daughter. Every muscle in my body was tense by the time we got home. But, I only grabbed the steering wheel twice :)
Great post, It reminded me of my first time driving that and I think alot of the time I see life as a drive that we are on and some exciting stuff happens along the way to our destination.ReplyDelete
I love the way this blog is set up. It really engages the readers. So many are the same format that just addresses the Author and their book but the inpiration that created the book is much more interesting. You can see this is true by the comments. Thanks for asking me to blog with Inkwell:)ReplyDelete
Many successful people like to tell stories about how much trouble they gave their parents when they were young. They grew up and did great things. And their parents survived!ReplyDelete
Nothing is more comforting than support and shared war stories from friends...and faith in the future, that's why Beth's book is so helpful.
Hey Jan, sounds like you've read Beth's book. I wish it was around, about ummm, 20 years ago?ReplyDelete
Oh, that sounds awful!
Thanks for commenting! We appreciate it.
Often those things that cause ochita for parents are the same 'character traits' that help those same teens when they face trials in adulthood.
And thanks, Beth, for the compliment on our blog. We sorta like it too!
Thanks for having me. You've got me hooked. I'll be a regular tuning into your blog:)ReplyDelete
I know that feeling of watching your 16-year-old drive away for the first time. Yikes! That's all I can say. Glad to see him mature and gain independence. Missing being in control...ReplyDelete
That book sounds helpful.
Thank you for your post and your site. I will definitely subscribe to it now.ReplyDelete
When I read posts of that kind I still believe that there are still wise people on the Earth.ReplyDelete